With every refresh of the news cycle, more allegations of sexual misconduct are announced, more careers are derailed, and more people suddenly are thrust into the spotlight.
First, before things come completely unhinged, I need to go on the record and say that I am sympathetic with anyone that has truly been hurt by any other person. Any form of true abuse should not be tolerated.
That said, we need to make sure we are truly looking at whether or not people are truly hurt, truly damaged, truly pushed into situations that they were not capable of handling without media attention. We need to make sure we aren’t simply catering to a lot of people that would rather complain or bitch or moan rather than fight to survive.
There’s a reason that Don Draper and Tony Stark are popular fictional characters. There’s a reason we have opposable thumbs. The strong, powerful, smart, and attractive are driving forces in society. They’re the people that men and women look up to (even if they hate them at the same time).
People that are driven are going to take chances and try to get what they want. People that are successful are accustomed to getting what they want and they’re going to keep pushing for more. If you don’t want to give in, don’t. Become more powerful than them. Grow an extra thumb and prove yourself to be the next step in evolution. Be the person that people aspire to, not the one that got upset because someone hit on you when they were drunk.
Acting like our current lineup of actors and politicians were the first womanizers, predators, and players is asinine. Social media, mobile phones, and digital cameras make it easier to get caught and easier to spread the word, but this isn’t new. Look at famous men throughout history, if you think they didn’t bend a subordinate over the woodpile you’re fooling yourself.
As a male, I have to say that women have called out things to me that I’d never have dreamed of saying to them. Men and women have instincts that sometimes come out. I’ve never been offended at the random foot in my crotch at a table or hand brushing across my crotch. One of my bosses, female, put me in a very bad position once and I turned her down….and lost my job. I stood up at the time, didn’t wait 25 years, and moved on.
There are a lot of genuinely bad stories in the news. There are a lot of bad rumors in the news. There are also a lot of things out there that simply need to be left out of the spotlight.
Again, for anyone genuinely hurt, I’m very sorry. For those of you that are giving far too much credence to the current hot-button of inappropriate conduct, go fuck yourselves (but make sure you get your own permission first).